It’s often been said that looking back is pointless, as it isn’t going to change anything. Life has got be lived forward. Although unchangeable, the past is a treasure trove of wisdom, resources, and experiences. Wouldn’t it be foolish to overlook these gems of life? What if we looked back wisely?
Look back to connect the dots and make sense of the past, not to find the path for the future.
Look back to be glad of the path that has led you here, not to regret over missed opportunities.
Look back to learn from failures and mistakes, not to beat yourself up.
Look back to forgive yourself of wrong doings, not to drown in shame or guilt.
Look back to grateful for what is gained, not to lament over what is lost.
Look back to cherish your memories, not to hold onto them forever.
Look back to accept what has happened, not to wish that it was different.
Look back to celebrate how far you have come, not to worry about how for more you need to go.
Look back to count your blessings, not to cry over your misfortunes.
Look back to appreciate those who brought you comfort or joy, not to resent those who have caused you sorrow or pain.
Intentions, intentions, intentions. Don’t we think we always act out of good intentions?
But having good intentions simply isn’t enough. The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
We are judged by others not by our intentions, no matter how noble they might be, but by our actions and the impact of our actions.
Intention and action are equally important and inseparable partners in the dance of manifestation. Without action, intention remains a latent potential. And without appropriate action, the impact is seldom as intended.
Let your intentions be pure and clear, your actions deliberate and appropriate, and the world gains from the impact of your existence.
“When your intention is clear, so is the way.” ~ Alan Cohen
We are born without any hereditary beliefs. All the beliefs we possess now were acquired over time. Beliefs are what we hold to be true. We see the world and make interpretations of what we see through the filters of our beliefs.
We cannot not have beliefs. Life wouldn’t work without them. However, at times, our lives don’t work because of them too.
Consider beliefs as ‘bricks’ that we pick up along our journey through life. With each brick, we construct or expand a structure to make sense of and navigate the world. We can build a castle, a wall, a bridge, or anything imaginable.
A ‘wall’ is used to separate what’s connected. It divides. Over time, that which began as one grows into distinct parts. A ‘bridge’ connects the separated. It provides access from one side to another, enables mutual exchange and shaping of shared understanding. It enables the discovery of a common ground that could pave the way for that which are separated to become somewhat whole again.
Walls and bridges are both necessary, and there will always new bricks. How we use them has a profound impact on our lives.
At times, we need to loosen some of the bricks in our walls, hold some beliefs lightly, let in new ideas even if they contradict or challenge our existing beliefs, and build more bridges.
Human beings are wired to crave for love. And we are also born with the capacity to love, although it might a few lessons in life’s School of Hard Knocks to acquire the mindset and ability to express it.
To love and be loved is often said to be the greatest joy in life.
We feel loved when are accepted for who we are, cared for, and supported. That gives us strength to learn, grow, and confidently face into the challenges that life throws at us. Children who grow up in a loving environment typically develop a healthy self-esteem and confidence.
Conversely, we love another by accepting who they are unconditionally, showing care and concern, and offering support when needed. Loving another deeply gives us the courage to act boldly in service of our loved ones and making sacrifices for their well-being. Parents often act selflessly to protect their children, even if it means putting themselves in danger.
Ideally, love is two-way, but it need not necessarily be so. We can love our children deeply without expecting them to love us back in the same way. However, mutuality and reciprocity between romantic lovers is vital to sustain a strong relationship or marriage. Through loving each other deeply, we give one another the strength and courage to weather life’s storms of difficulties as well as life’s greatest gift – JOY.
“Love is granting another the space to be the way they are and the way they are not.” ~ Werner Erhard
“Less is more” – three simple words of wisdom worth living by. They underpin Minimalism, a movement which first began in art, and subsequently influenced many domains including product design, home design, and way of living.
More recently, Marie Kondo has taken the simple idea of “What sparks joy?” from decluttering homes to decluttering businesses and life – inspiring many to simplify their lives.
Consider apply the following questions to the various aspects of life, including possessions, relationships, clients, personal goals, pet projects, etc.
Simpler – What is essential? What is non-essential?
Fewer – What to keep? What to discard?
Better – How to improve, make the best use of, or enjoy what is left?
“Voluntary simplicity means going fewer places in one day rather than more, seeing less so I can see more, doing less so I can do more, acquiring less so I can have more.”~ Jon Kabat-Zinn, Wherever You Go, There You Are